Unlearning is the key to moving forwards. Just let that sit with you for a while. For the past few weeks, months, maybe even years I've felt stuck. Knowing I've got a purpose, knowing I'm destined for more but not really knowing what. I've done the courses, got the qualifications, read the books and listened to the podcasts in the hope of that light bulb moment, and when it hasn't happened I've carried on looking for another avenue, something else to consume with the magic answers or the key to unlock my brain.
We've become so conditioned to the fact that the answer lies out there somewhere. Content is literally everywhere we turn and we consume it hungrily on a path of self growth and self development, always wanting to get to the next milestone, a better place, all in the hope of making our lives better and more fulfilling. Yet we finish the course, the article, the podcast and we expect by magic to be a different person so we skip onto the next thing when we're not.
Some inner work, some tough conversations, thoughts and realities, have brought things to the surface I've been suppressing. I've been so consumed with trying to make everything perfect and just so, that I've become caught in the vicious circle of not going anywhere, spending hours, days consumed with the fact that I haven't got all my shit together, instead of trusting myself, my knowledge and my heart and flying forwards with confidence.
I've become so caught up in learning new things, new methods, new processes that I've become a barrier to myself. In order to take a step forward and flourish I need to unlearn the behaviour and habits that I've learned!
We're conditioned to the fact that we need to know it all, and we need to know it now. That if we make a mistake we've failed. Failure isn't something to be scared of. What if I fail? Yes, but what if you don't?
"We live in a world that teaches the importance of ambition, efficiency, expediency, getting things done to produce the quickest results. It does not teach or encourage us to relax and just be where we are. In fact, if we are not crazy active and doing a million different things, we get labelled as lazy or unambitious"
Byron Baptiste- Perfectly Imperfect: The Art and Soul of Yoga Practice
We're taught in order to move forwards we need to hurry, rush, learn, fight, when in fact we could all take a minute to slow down and just be. Revel in the present, press pause for a moment and instead of foot on the gas just glide along in neutral for a while.
Saying this I don't mean I don't have goals and dreams. I do! I've just become that hung up on why I'm not there and planning exactly how to get there, that I've lost me along the way. Unlearning isn't an overnight fix. Getting comfortable with the fact is.
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